By Vicki Hughes Posted May 1, 2013
It occurs to me that there’s a reason folks used to say, “Idle hands are the devils’ workshop.” When we aren’t busy, actively engaged in something, our minds often go rogue and turn against us.
I never seem to spend much time worrying about anything when I am super-busy (most of you know, that is most of the time!) I have too much to do to worry! I’ve got to roll. All the activity is good for me, and keeps me making progress. If I’m idle too long, my mind slides over into “what-if mode.” I’ve discovered that “what-if mode” never suggests things like, “What if all of my bills got paid off mysteriously?” or “What if I live to be 100 in perfect health, with the wit of Betty White?” or “What if everyone I love has the best year ever?” Nope.
“What-if mode” tends to concoct lots of scenarios, most of which would make excellent horror movies or at least really bad country songs. “What if my house caught on fire while I was stuck in the bathroom with food poisoning, and all of my clothes burned up before I could grab something to put on?” Hmmmm? What then? “What if an asteroid hit, and there was a tsunami, and I don’t have a life raft, or one of those little flare guns and bottled water…will I have to drink my own urine while I bob around in a watery wasteland, and will my cell phone even work under those conditions?” We don’t know. It’s a conundrum.
“What-if mode is heavy on the problem and light on the solutions, and works extremely well at 2:15 am, when you are in no particular position to solve the quandary you are being challenged with. I have learned to avoid watching overly dramatic, or traumatic subject matter before bed, and always attempt to put myself to bed on a funny, happy note. I consider it preventive maintenance, to provide my brain with a cheat sheet of good stuff to draw from, so that my subconscious doesn’t need to rifle through the horror drawers to amuse itself while I sleep.
And when I am awake, the best thing I know to do to stay happy is to keep rolling. Stay busy, stay productive, keep moving. The more I do, the better I feel, because my “what-if mode” stays a lot quieter, and then, when I fall into bed at night, I’m just thankful to feel the sheets, and get horizontal for a few hours.
© Vicki Hughes 2013
Soooo true. I think Mark Twain said “I’ve suffered a lot of terrible things in my life, most of which never happened!”
Exactly! 😉
Sounds like you subscribe to one of my mantras, More doing less worrying : ) I’m happiest when i’m moving !
Keep rollin’!
Very good!! The ol “what if”. A few years ago while on one of my “sister’s” weekends. There famous you know, the 4 of us spending time together. Well one of my sisters husbands said to her as she was leaving for our weekend “WHAT IF ??????” He was then told very firmly “I can’t live in the what ifs!” I have always thought WOW. That’s a good one!
It’s an exhausting place to live!
I had the classic “What if I am in the shower and someone breaks into the house while I am wet and naked?” actually come true yesterday. Kids were napping and I just couldn’t live with myself another minute if I didn’t take a shower. So there I am getting into the shower and I hear A Noise. I stood there wondering should I go get my handgun to investigate, followed by “where the hell is my bath robe?” Turns out it was just the hubs coming in early from work.
The thought crossed my mbd that the sight of me sans clothing might have been more effective at scaring off an intruder than if I was holding a gun on them.